Is your reaction out of balance?

Sometimes when we are struggling, it's hard to see that our reactions may be out of balance. Here are some examples of situations that describe reactions. If you see that some of your common reactions are out of balance, this can give you important information about what might be happening. If this is the case, you may want to find a way for you to regain your balance and well-being.

Something happens Reaction that may be out of balance Reaction that may indicate a more balanced approach
Your manager comments on an error in your work. You feel extreme anger at your manager.

You feel guilty about the error for days.

You can't sleep that night.

You call in sick to avoid seeing your manager.
You ask questions to understand what happened.

You discuss strategies with your manager to prevent the error from happening again.

You discuss with your manager how criticism affects you, and ways that are easier for you to hear feedback.
Something happens Reaction that may be out of balance Reaction that may indicate a more balanced approach
A co-worker strongly disagrees with a new idea you have put forward at a team meeting. You feel very hurt and angry with the co-worker.

You cry in the washroom, feeling alone and misunderstood.

You share gossip about the co-worker.

You decide not to share your other ideas at team meetings.
You let your co-worker know how you're feeling in a productive way, e.g. "I feel surprised that in the meeting you said my idea wouldn't work."

You ask questions to get more information from the co-worker about why there is disagreement.

You look for solutions to the disagreement.

You remind yourself that your ideas are important, and that disagreement between people is normal.
Something happens Reaction that may be out of balance Reaction that may indicate a more balanced approach
Your work is piling up and you know you are going to miss an important deadline. You can't eat because you are so tense.

You are unable to focus on work for long periods of time and do "busy work" such as surfing the internet, going for coffee, or shuffling papers, to pass the time.

After the deadline has passed, you complain to your manager that you didn't have enough time and that it isn't your fault.

You feel very anxious and panicky as you think about future deadlines, and the pile of unfinished work.
As your work is piling up, you take a few moments to step back and reorganize.

You share your concerns with your manager that you don't think you can meet the deadline. You also share possible solutions to the problem.

If the deadline will still be missed, as soon as you know, you share this information with your manager.

Together with your manager, you make plans to avoid missed deadlines in future.

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